December has been one crazy month! The pressure of the semester's end combined with the hustle and bustle of Christmas has been more than a notion. The holidays for me are always bittersweet. This year was no exception. Things always start out so great but it is always just a matter of time before the dark clouds start looming. Being the sensitive person that I am, it usually takes me at least a week to process my emotions. And during the process, I am usually pretty miserable. Oh how I wish I was the type of person that could just get over it!
But do those people really just get over it? Or is their seeming resilience merely a facade? And how is it that one just gets over something that is so important? I don't think that I will ever find the answers to these complicated questions. What I do know is that I need to do something that will allow me to avoid this emotional turmoil as much as possible. And when it is inevitable, I need to find ways to cope more effectively. In trying to find a solution to my dilemma, I have realized another weight that has plagued me all of my life--the weight of expectations.
As I have mentioned in several posts, I am a forward thinker. For every situation in my life I have some clear ideas about how things should go. In a lot of cases, it all works out and things go just as I expect them to. But there are just as many times that my expectations don't pan out. When this happens, I feel disappointed and I too often find it difficult to bounce back. So I am making a decision to be more flexible and more realistic with my expectations. Don't get me wrong...I am not lowering my expectations. I am simply learning to recalibrate my expectations as necessary, on my weigh!
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